Don’t worry, I’m not going to post a blog about our engagement every month. Hahaha! #umaylangteh
Some
women, in my age, feel like ‘rushing’ to find the right man in their
life to get engaged with and married to. But how does it really feel
like to be an engaged woman?
That amazing feeling knowing there’s someone waiting for the right time for
me to be his wife. That kilig feeling I get when I am introduced or tagged as
his fiancée. That feeling when he calls me “my wife” or “wifey” or “asawa ko”.
Sometimes, I would unintentionally stop from typing in my keyboard and
just stare at my engagement ring and suddenly remember everything that
happened on the Big Question Day. That feeling of excitement I have when
thoughts about our life being together start popping in my head.
Haaaay…♥
Lucky
when I only have those happy little things every girl fantasizes about, but it’s not always like that, you know. I realized the words pressure, stress, conflicts and worries are automatically
attached to it. Entering this new BIG phase of life by saying just that 3-letter
word is a choice that is much more overwhelming than you think it is.
If you think that’s already a big decision, well, think again. I have
just welcomed more, bigger decisions to decide on. And sometimes, even
the small ones make life hard: when to go home after you
hang out, color and style of furniture for our home, dealing with my fckin’ PMS, even curtains
for our windows, and the list goes on! Hahaha! PS: We haven’t started any preparations for our wedding
yet so I haven’t listed so much. 😀
Imagine,
you have dedicated your entire life to someone you’re not even related with
(by blood). Even when you think you ‘click’ or get each other’s vibes
the whole time you are together, conflicts will be there. There are a lot of
decision-making stuff that will come and make you realize “We are two
VERY different people”. But “Let’s break up” when you are already
engaged is no longer as easy as saying “Let’s break up” when you were
still dating. The moment you said YES to his marriage
proposal, you have also said YES to the start of committing yourself to
be the best-est person for him to be with forever. (I’m sure he already
knew you are the best person for him that’s why he proposed to you!) It takes much more effort not to lose that magic. You definitely have to work on it way better than you do when you were still dating.
Help yourself, ask guidance from God, for adjusting to the situation is difficult,
specially for someone like me who is a little bossy, too independent and some time
in life was scared of commitments. Everything you do that you think will
affect your relationship/soon-to-be married life, you have to at least
let him know first no matter how much you want to do it. At some point, even
if it’s really hard and feels unfair, you need to be submissive and
dependent. Guys want someone who needs them… You’re welcome, guys. :}
Adjustment
is very challenging. Everyday is a learning day. I’m glad we have our families and friends who
unselfishly give advices and share experiences about marriage–those good
and bad ones which can be our guide in making our relationship grow stronger. And I’m
trying to put in my mind and heart everything I’m learning from some marriage blogs and from the book he gave
me two years ago: The One Year Love Language Minute Devotional.
There are just so many things… It’s
an awesome experience, I must say. I get to know not only him, but
myself as well. I think I’m enjoying it. And I can’t wait for our Big
Day…♥
Saturday, May 9, 2015.
I thought it was just an ordinary day, but I felt extraordinary.
Without an alarm, I still managed to wake up early. With my mom, dad and
brother, I had my favorites for breakfast: corned beef and scrambled
egg with sausages. 🙂
I
also got mani-pedi services at home. For only 150Php (including the
tip), voila, I had French-tipped fingernails and gray toes! First time
to try this combination. You know, there are also times when I want to
make my feet and hands look fair and feminine. Hihi.
PJ
and I had planned to go somewhere in UP Village to try a new restaurant
at 3pm. After lunch, I could still afford to take a nap. He arrived in
our house at around 4pm to pick me up. He was late because of the extremely heavy traffic
in Antipolo—it’s Sumaka (Suman-Mangga-Kasoy) Festival! But I didn’t
make scenes anymore because I was busy watching ‘Til My Heartaches End.
Hahaha! Plus, pormang-porma. Buti na lang a week ago, he asked me if I
could wear a dress. Ayun, hindi naman ako nagmukhang yaya. 😀
All
along I thought we’re going to Artsy Café in Maginhawa St. That was the
plan last week. But instead of heading straight to A. Bonifacio Ave.
which is a shorter cut to Katipunan, he turned left… going to our house.
On our way, he kept saying “I love you, Babe” and even brought up those
dates when we started dating. He even asked me to take a photo and
video of us while we’re in the car but it was moving and the photos
were blurry so I didn’t have much. He parked the car on the side where
we don’t usually park. At dahil feeling lalaki kasi ako, I always go and
walk first even when he’s still inside. I think he already knew I’d be
doing it so he told me he’d get out of the car first. Then I knew he’s
brewing something… (If you’d ask me kung wala man lang akong
nakutuban, I thought they were really weird this past week. I just
didn’t want to assume things, you know.) He looked so nervous and
uneasy. Haha! I had never seen him like that. He handed me his phone and
asked me to wear the earphones. I remember, what I said was “ANO
‘TO???” as we were walking towards the gate when in the back of my mind,
I already had a clue. He instructed me to sit on the chair at the gate
and with his shaking hands, he played the video and left me. I was
already teary-eyed. There he appeared, he was talking, saying he already
wanted to bring our relationship to the next stage. My tears burst.
Then our photographer and videographer friends came out. And I guess God
really prepared me for this moment… I don’t normally have a hanky in
my bag but I had one that day. Probably because He didn’t want me to
look ewan on the pictures. Hahahaha! He compiled our photos and
videos from our first months up to the recent. Important events, travels
and just-because moments together… I really couldn’t hold back my
tears. :’)
At
the end of the video, I was asked to look at the back… Hagulgol to
the max! Why? I was absolutely surprised to see my whole family and his
and our closest friends there!!! Then I recognized my dad, mom,
dad-in-law, mom-in-law and sis-in-law holding banners with words “Anj
Will You Marry Me? :)” respectively. PJ was standing in front, with a
beautiful bouquet of flowers (that I have always dreamt of receiving
whenever I saw it in the mall, haha) in his hands, as if he was waiting
for me at the altar. I just couldn’t walk. My hands were shaking. I
couldn’t stop my tears from falling. (You know, I’m still teary-eyed as I
write this…) He asked me to come near him. He was crying. (My BFF Soph was really kind to upload a video of this moment a few hours after. The link is here.) He looked
to my eyes and sincerely said it’s about time for this moment, that we
have God, our families and loved ones to guide us in this BIG step that
we’re about to take. He said the sweetest “I love you” I have ever heard
from him (so far). I hope the videographers were able to capture this
very moment because I won’t get tired of watching him say those words
over and over again… Then he knelt down and brought out a small red
box. He actually stood up again and handed me the bouquet. Nakalimutan
na nya sa sobrang pagka-tensed. Haha! Then he already asked me
the question every girl would love to hear… As he was saying the
words, I felt like only the two of us were there. I said “Yes!” without
any hesitation, as if I was all ready to answer “Yes” hindi pa man siya
nagsisimulang magsalita. Haha! I could hear my husky voice shaking. He
wore the precious thing on my left ring finger, kissed me on the cheek
and hugged me. I closed my eyes and thanked the Lord for giving me this perfect
man for me that I was hugging. He knew I’d be much, much happier having only the important people in our lives there. I heard them clapping hands and saw
them wiping tears. Everyone was happy. But I wasn’t… because I was the
happiest.♥
Please say you’re happy for us. 🙂
Our priest-friend approached us and we started the ceremony… It was also the day of the blessing of our
new house. The house that witnessed his wedding proposal and will
shelter our future family. The house that will be our home with God’s grace.
Though we don’t have any furniture yet, we have our Sto. Nino (a gift
from PJ’s parents) and Holy Family (which I won from a “mini raffle”
from our priest-friend a few months ago) for our altar. After the rooms
were blessed, he asked our parents to give a message for us. Then we
threw coins from the outside of the main door to inside, as they say, it’s for us to receive abundant blessings.
We also signed the turnover papers that day. Atin na talaga to, wala nang atrasan! 😀
When
we got home, my mom and I were talking while we’re eating this sweet and delicious chocolate fondant cake made by my brother-in-law. She told me that PJ already asked her and my dad’s blessings
as well as my brothers’ (and nieces’ perhaps?) and treated them for
dinner last month. It was such a really sweet gesture… I sometimes
felt a little disappointed because he never asked for my parents’
permission whenever we go out (even out of town). Hindi ko naman alam na
ipagpapaalam naman pala niya ko pag papakasalan na nya ko… sa buong
pamilya ko pa.♥
The
day ended with heavy rains and thunderstorms. But I was even happy it
happened. It’s as if God was sending His message to us that this day was
really blessed.ü
So
this is what it feels like… Nalaglag sa lupa yung pagiging macho
ko… I felt like a queen. I just can’t contain my happiness! At work, I
would stop for a while and glance at my ring and the proposal scenes
play in my mind as if this ring has a VLC player. Dati napapanood ko
lang sa movies and videos yun. With all the efforts and love, my ex-boyfriend, who
is now my fiancé, absolutely didn’t fail to make me feel really
special…
There
had been a time in my life that I became afraid of
commitments—short-term or long-term—that even getting a 24-month
postpaid plan scared me. It’s a little scary how being an adult scared
me too much even when I felt I was macho enough for anything. I lived
with whatever I have but it seemed like there’s a big piece missing. I
was eager to search for it. I was one of those who believe in
#walangforever. For years, I have been praying for guidance, strength
and courage to take risks and prepare for life’s challenges. God is
indeed generous for when I had almost given my hopes up, He granted me a
man that would change my perspective towards everything in just a hit
of a button. One day came and I realized I am ready to commit myself to
‘someone’ for the rest of my life and that I won’t have to be afraid for
whatever the future brings as long as we hold each other’s hands. PJ Tolentino is
that ‘someone’ and God made me believe #mayforever.♥
How
we started was something I never thought would lead us to where we are
right now. The first few years were never easy. We had been through a
lot of things I thought would break us permanently. But I guess those challenges were God’s way of teaching us a lesson in life that everybody must learn, too: Fight for what you love. Love
is such a wonderful thing that it makes you brave enough to face what
scares you the most—accepting and being accepted. Each of us has our
own set of fears and flaws but we choose to deal with it together. We
still argue (and I’m sure we’ll be arguing more) for the small and big
decisions that we make but one must concede and lower his/her pride. You
know you win when you see yourselves happy and contented towards
the same direction together.
Being
in a relationship is just like playing Clash of Clans, we have just
upgraded our Town Hall (relationship) to the next level. As they say,
the higher the level, the harder the challenges. There will be goons
(problems) to attack us and test our strength along the way but we will
build strong defenses (love) to protect our base (relationship). We have
our troops (families and friends) to support us as we go through this
level. We build and fix what’s broken like what the builders do. We remove the
trees and rocks (problems and pride) that hinder us in achieving our relationship goals and
we choose the right strategy to gain more golds, elixirs and gems
(finances, career and personal growth, and relationships). We learn to
wait until the right time comes that we’re ready to upgrade to another
level. But we don’t stop there; we work harder to make things better
than the previous levels. Kaya PJ, wag ka na masyadong kokontra pag naglalaro ako kasi naire-relate ko naman satin to. Hahahahaha! :))))
To
our families and friends, from the bottom of our hearts, THANK YOU SO MUCH. Each message you send is a gift we will always keep in our hearts. We
are truly grateful for all your best wishes. We are overwhelmed with the
support you have shown us all throughout. Thank you for being happy
for us. May you include us in your prayers that God will bless and guide
us in the next path that we’re about to take.
Hubby
Babe, I know you will be able to read this anytime soon dahil ikaw ang number 1 fan ng blog ko… Thank you very much for all the love,
efforts, patience and sacrifices. Di ako makapaniwalang isang linggo na
pala ang nakalipas. Hindi pa man tayo nakakapag-set ng wedding date,
meron na agad challenge sa atin. Pero kaya natin’ to! God is with us! I’ll reserve the rest
that I want to say to you. Hihi. Mahal na mahal kita more than a trillion times.♥
“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” ─ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
It may sound too cliché but this will remain to be the best definition of LOVE. Neri and Mhaan’s marriage is a proof of this love. More than a year of building a great foundation of their great relationship, stressful yet fulfilling preparations for the wedding, and the wedding day itself, everything was worth it. Every bride feels she’s the most beautiful woman as she walks down the aisle, but Mhaan’s walk to the altar? I guess she felt like the “most beautiful queen” as Neri sang “Marry Your Daughter” accompanied by a piano. Kiliiiig! The day was made even more special with the presence of their loved ones who witnessed their exchange of vows─a promise to love and care for each other ‘til death do them part.
When you love someone, you love them beyond anything. Your eyes sparkle when you see him/her. You feel the spark each time you hold hands. You feel safe and secure whenever he/she hugs you. You’re willing to do everything for him/her. You care for him/her like a delicate rose. You accept each other’s flaws, you understand how crazy he/she can get, yet still love him/her like there’s no tomorrow… When you marry him/her, it’s not the end of building the love; it’s the start of the keeping the love that you’ll cherish forever.
“4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. 7 It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. 8 Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.” ─ 1 Corinthians 13:4-8
It may sound too cliché but this will remain to be the best definition of LOVE. Neri and Mhaan’s marriage is a proof of this love. More than a year of building a great foundation of their great relationship, stressful yet fulfilling preparations for the wedding, and the wedding day itself, everything was worth it. Every bride feels she’s the most beautiful woman as she walks down the aisle, but Mhaan’s walk to the altar? I guess she felt like the “most beautiful queen” as Neri sang “Marry Your Daughter” accompanied by a piano. Kiliiiig! The day was made even more special with the presence of their loved ones who witnessed their exchange of vows─a promise to love and care for each other ‘til death do them part.
When you love someone, you love them beyond anything. Your eyes sparkle when you see him/her. You feel the spark each time you hold hands. You feel safe and secure whenever he/she hugs you. You’re willing to do everything for him/her. You care for him/her like a delicate rose. You accept each other’s flaws, you understand how crazy he/she can get, yet still love him/her like there’s no tomorrow… When you marry him/her, it’s not the end of building the love; it’s the start of the keeping the love that you’ll cherish forever.
It’s been a month since JR and Rai tied the knot. Wanna know how they started 8 years ago and ended up with their sweet marriage? Watch their pre-wedding video.<3
It’s been a month since JR and Rai tied the knot. Wanna know how they started 8 years ago and ended up with their sweet marriage? Watch their pre-wedding video.<3
Surviving a long-distance relationship requires patience, effort and, of course, love. Undoubtedly, Edward and Milyn have already mastered these three, so they have decided to continue their love story…
The sun rose on the 25th of June with heart-shaped clouds when they tied the knot at 6 o’clock in the morning. (Yes, you read it right, 6 o’clock in the morning.) The setup may be different among the others—unusual schedule of the ceremony, sleepless night, literally early call time for preparation—but the reason is still the same… Two people wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. It’s just that Edward and Milyn opted to start this new life as early as possible. :p
To one of our June wedding couples, Edward and Milyn… Congratulations and Best Wishes! ♥
Date: June 25, 2013 (Tuesday) Church: Holy Family Chapel Reception: Aqua Gems Resort Antipolo Hair and Makeup by: Dawn Salvador Photo and Video by: Infinite Pixel Digital Photography
Surviving a long-distance relationship requires patience, effort and, of course, love. Undoubtedly, Edward and Milyn have already mastered these three, so they have decided to continue their love story…
The sun rose on the 25th of June with heart-shaped clouds when they tied the knot at 6 o’clock in the morning. (Yes, you read it right, 6 o’clock in the morning.) The setup may be different among the others—unusual schedule of the ceremony, sleepless night, literally early call time for preparation—but the reason is still the same… Two people wanted to spend the rest of their lives together. It’s just that Edward and Milyn opted to start this new life as early as possible. :p
To one of our June wedding couples, Edward and Milyn… Congratulations and Best Wishes! ♥
Date: June 25, 2013 (Tuesday) Church: Holy Family Chapel Reception: Aqua Gems Resort Antipolo Hair and Makeup by: Dawn Salvador Photo and Video by: Infinite Pixel Digital Photography
We first met Edward a few days after May started. Like them, we were surprised that their big day would be filled with more blessings than we thought they could have.
The Christian wedding happened last June 19 at Sedretos Royale in Marikina City. Mr. Sunny showed up in the morning but seemed to cry tears of joy when it started drizzling around noon while the bride and the groom were preparing for their big day. At 5pm, the amazing sky gave way. What made it more special was, despite the fact that it was a working day, the venue was crowded by their loved ones whom they wanted to be witnesses of their oneness. The ceremony was initiated by the procession of the entourage with a motif of corn yellow and chocolate brown that added brightness and sweetness to the atmosphere. And as soon as Wendy stepped the hall, a lovely Tagalog song was played. Everybody was gazing at her as she walked to the man whom she would be spending the rest of her life with… The rain poured hard during the ceremony which, for everyone of us, meant more blessings for their marriage.<3
Thank you, Sir Edward and Ma’am Wendy, for making Infinite Pixel Digital Photography a big part of your life as a newly-wedded couple! Congratulations and best wishes!:)
We first met Edward a few days after May started. Like them, we were surprised that their big day would be filled with more blessings than we thought they could have.
The Christian wedding happened last June 19 at Sedretos Royale in Marikina City. Mr. Sunny showed up in the morning but seemed to cry tears of joy when it started drizzling around noon while the bride and the groom were preparing for their big day. At 5pm, the amazing sky gave way. What made it more special was, despite the fact that it was a working day, the venue was crowded by their loved ones whom they wanted to be witnesses of their oneness. The ceremony was initiated by the procession of the entourage with a motif of corn yellow and chocolate brown that added brightness and sweetness to the atmosphere. And as soon as Wendy stepped the hall, a lovely Tagalog song was played. Everybody was gazing at her as she walked to the man whom she would be spending the rest of her life with… The rain poured hard during the ceremony which, for everyone of us, meant more blessings for their marriage.<3
Thank you, Sir Edward and Ma’am Wendy, for making Infinite Pixel Digital Photography a big part of your life as a newly-wedded couple! Congratulations and best wishes!:)
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